Does ‘Time’ Lesson the Pain of a Loss?


“Time is healer”
“You’ll feel better with time”

How often do we say or hear these statements, I know I hear them said a lot, usually by someone who cares and is simple trying soothe and help.

I do wonder, having experienced the loss of an important person in my life and feeling my own experience of ‘grief’, whether time actually does ‘lessen’ the felt pain – and indeed – ‘heal’.

In those early days of the loss of my Grandad I would connect with the pain left behind when he passed over often… Four years on and I connect with my grief less, but when I do it can feel as painful and as intense as it did at the time of his passing… So, my question – Does time really help the pain? I would say… No it doesn’t… but with time you start to fill your life with things that stop you from connecting so often with that grief  – I believe that grief is something we hold on to and carry around for the rest of our earthly life.

I am a spiritual person and feel my Grandad is still around me – I have been given evidence to confirm this belief too. But even with this wonderful comfort that he still lives, I find my grief hard to bear at times. Maybe it’s my Love for him that has nowhere physical to go that causes this…

I do believe that Love is an Energy – and energy can never die! I also believe that we have the innate need to share love with the ‘loved’ being or thing. Maybe the reason the pain never seems to lessen in its intensity, for me, is because my love has nowhere to go, physically, on this earthly vibration. I know that I can send this love out spiritually with the comfort that Grandad will receive it and visa versa, BUT I think that the inability to share the physical Love energy is what creates much of the pain I feel in those times of grief. My Love is struggling with nowhere to go…

These are my thoughts anyway… feel free to share yours…

Blessings – Donna x

1 Comment on "Does ‘Time’ Lesson the Pain of a Loss?"

  1. I agree with Donna, there is no where to place the physical love. That connection is the thing that causes all of the pain. I have lost my son last October and miss the hugs and smiles. I am also very spiritual and know our special bond cannot be broken. I just wish I could skype him-wish he could tell me what he feels and what it is like there.We have no real concept of it. I think often what is he doing now. Great to share. God bless you. Andrea x

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