The Broad Blue Sea: Coping with Life’s Struggles.


Life is challenging.

There is really no arguing with that statement is there? Whether it’s challenging in the sense of negative situations like job and relationship changes, or challenging in the sense of choosing what to name your hamster and what you’re going to wear on Saturday night. It’s a constant battle of dodging the bad, grasping the good and what happens when you get those two things the wrong way round.

If we’re honest, the list of words to describe life would be as long as we are tall and then a few meters longer. But we must be careful to make sure the list isn’t dominated by negative words and that in turn the negative doesn’t dominate our life. It’s not always easy, especially when you are tangled up in a situation that you can’t see the way out of. What it is important to remember is that there is always an option, you just have to allow yourself to find it, even when there is no-one else around you, you are never on your own.

The first thing to remember when you are caught in a negative situation is to make sure you have assessed it thoroughly, but not to over assess it. It’s no good trying to resolve a bad thing when you are losing sleep, getting exhausted and effectively preventing yourself from finding the light at the end of the tunnel. There are many options (and not all of them are obvious to everyone), but the one that is overlooked the most is to leave it in the hands of those who know best.

Those who have left our world have the best perspective of it. They can see the pathways that are obscured to us, and can point us in the right direction without forceful intervention. There are many ways to enlist the help of such spirits.

The first, and simplest, is to talk to them. They can hear you when you speak to them, and they are probably aware of the situation before you are. It doesn’t matter how you do it, whether you use a picture of object of theirs to secure your connection, go to a place that reminds you of them, or just speak out loud in their general direction.

If you don’t find talking about it easy (or are worried about being caught “talking to yourself”!), you could write it down. The note could be sealed in an envelope with their name on it, left under their picture, or placed somewhere that would allow them to leave a response (not necessarily in writing, but they may want to move the envelope slightly to give you a sign they have been involved!).

Having the faith that you are never alone when life throws you off your stride can be the key to finding a solution. Whether you seek advice on where to turn next when a relationship has ground to a halt, or you just want to know whether that new outfit still looks as good as it did when you bought it, there are people who have the answers, if you only ask.